What’s On Your Mind?

  Testosterone, as we’ve seen, is a powerful hormone. Eighty years since it was first isolated, it continues to inspire research and controversy. Currently there is a study going on at Yale University to determine why testosterone levels decrease. Is it due to aging? Is it due to something in the water or food supply?…

Men Go It Alone

  “I’m a guy. I don’t talk about my disease because it isn’t polite to talk about testicles in public. Besides, it’s not wise to signal weakness. Jackals circle the clan waiting for the frail to stumble. A man on his knees invites attack.” Is that old thought or is that a genetically triggered characteristic…

I Touch Myself

  Before we get into trouble let’s look at elements and expressions of love; after all we men are the romantic gender. Are you surprised? Truly we are. Despite all the images in the popular culture; despite the projections of men as the stumbling klutzes in relationships; and despite all the advice columns, romance novels,…

That Smile

  Kissing didn’t start out as upper persuasion for lower invasion, but as a way to share germs and build immunity. Yes, swapping spit has a biological function. It likely originated with moms and maybe dads feeding infants pre-chewed food [don’t gag—visualize birds feeding their brood in the nest]. This food was not only soft…

Close To You

    Family upbringing can imprint individuals with either the sense that touch and closeness are desirable, or are unpleasant. In some families, and in many institutional settings, closeness is barely in their social vocabulary. When one is raised thusly, that’s how one acts, that’s how one thinks, that’s what he or she brings to…

Bigger Than You

  Bigger than implies otherness; working for, or with, otherness implies relationships. Every relationship—two or more people—is bigger than you. A relationship may be with a life partner, parents, kids, pets, friends, spiritual beings, even inanimate projects or objects which take on a life of their own. Recall that men relate to the physical world…

Men. Love. Sex.

In the section on relationships we’ll discuss the intricacies of, and impediments to, intimacy. Here we are only concerned with the basics. People ignore fundamental biological differences in a rush to be equal or chic or politically correct. At times men ignore, and women deny, our sexuality. But that’s a veneer on reality. It is…

Men Hide Things

  Taking care of men can be a real challenge. Men tend to internalize emotions; we know this. The initial act of burying emotions delays stress and anger, and allows a man to deal with the situation. Dr. Reynolds, whom we talked to at length about boys and ADHD, tells us, “…men tend to be…

Men Are Passionate

  Men are passionate even if popular culture does not recognize it, or portrays men’s passions as lust. Indeed, that’s a problem right there. How can a man show his passionate side if there’s a chance he’ll be labeled a pervert? So men hide their feelings, mask their romantic side. That way, we don’t get…